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ariel

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I'm abroad, once more, visiting the university of Bergen (Norway) for three weeks.

I had many expectation from coming here, from the professional perspective.

I did not expect it to become a constant struggle with noise. Actually, I was hoping for the exact opposite.

It was evident there is a problem from the second I got here. I arrived late at night to a small hotel. The reception was closed, and they left me the key at the front desk.

As I entered my incredibly small room, I heard 3 bangs on the wall. I can only guess it was the guy next door, waking up from the noise I was making. Though, all I did was just entering the room. My ears were worn by the flight, my T turned from the usual high pitch constant noise I can tolerate, to a growling engine.

Sleeping there proved a challenge- every time someone walked in the adjacent rooms, or upstairs, it made a loud "thump" noise. I just can't tolerate this kind of sound. Not during the day, and it wakes me up at night . Surely, you can hear the TV from the adjacent rooms, or the people talking. Or even snoring.

I talked with the reception. They moved me to a corner room after a few days. It was a bit better at first. Aware of my complaints, they tried to keep the rooms adjacent and above me empty. But once the place was full again, the noise was back.

I asked to change hotel yesterday. It was not trivial, as the funding of such academic visit is not trivial. 

But it did not provided any relief. I can still hear the footsteps from the room above me.

They moved me a room this morning... now I am at the top floor. So there is no one above me. But I can only pray the people in the rooms to the two sides of me would be quite. 

I got a nice office at the University. I guess it is dead quite at night. Maybe I should start sleeping on the floor.

It is a long story and it has no real point. The real story I guess is that I am really frustrated by the whole situation. My life became a constant struggle with H. All I want is a place I can rest my head and be safe from noise. I can't find one. Neither at home nor abroad.

Ariel
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bananacupcakes

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Originally Posted by ariel
I did not expect it to become a constant struggle with noise. Actually, I was hoping for the exact opposite.


Yes, the whole thing is a frustrating. But having expectations especially about a new place will just disappoint you because sound is literally everywhere, like air. That's why life for us is a constant struggle with noise: Wherever we are in the world, there is noise, even more so when there are people nearby. I always brace for the worst whenever I'm in an unfamiliar place because I absolutely have no idea what the sound environment will be like.

Some places are quieter than others, but as long as there are other people around you, whether you're in the streets of Bangkok or up in the mountains in the Alps, there will be noise that can hurt you.
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ariel

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The current resolution- I started to sleep in the office.
Not perfect. But at least I was able to sleep.

bananacupcakes,

Expecting the worst leaves me paralysed. If I expect the worst, I should just stay at home. Or maybe start living in a tent out in the woods.

I am well aware that I cannot tolerate environments with noise, and I am well aware that I am unable to "protect" myself in those environments. Earplugs, earmuff, and noise cancelling headphones are usually useless against the types of noises which disturb me. I can protect my ears from further damage, but my main problem is the disturbance caused by *specific* sounds, even on low volume. 

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Ariel hi
Sorry to hear
Like you hotel stays are a stresser.
I always try to get the TOP floor for the same reasons you mention.
If people are noisy in rooms around me, I don’t try to tolerate I try to get it resolved.
We all suffer so much throughout that the cumulative effect grinds us down.
I try to control my environment and don’t think twice about it , it’s just to much of a pain trying to ‘accommodate ‘ others.
If a mattress in your office works, to me makes sense to consider it. ( was also former teacher )
Good luck 😉
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ariel

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Hi BA,

I think one of the difficulties is that it is hard for me to adjust.

The daily change in my life due to H is a evident all the time. However, the effects when I am abroad are new to me. I do not know how to solve the issue. I truly do not.

Apparently, the buildings here in Norway are made out of wood. Whenever someone steps on the floor it creates a noise that travels through the hotel. When ever someone close a door it does the same. 

I can ask people to be quiet, I can not ask them not to move within their hotel room. Besides, the sound travels well across the hotel, so I would need to put the whole place on a shutdown in order to have the quiet I need.

How can you control your environment under such circumstances? What can I do?

Surely, I asked the hotel if they can provide a quiet room before I checked in. It is pointless. And if I change the hotel once more- how do I know it would be better? I am lost [frown]

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Hi Ariel
Just came back from a 3 day 2 night beach break, tried to carefully pick the hotel, basically ‘lost it’ a couple Of times. The hotel policy was music everywhere is nice for guests! The spa in the small beach area played music so loud I could still hear it 300 yards out to sea, Their staff were so poorly trained that at 2 am their use of walkie talkies was so loud it woke us up so I let loose a little , ‘ oh sorry’ like as if it was a surprise !
They were building new rooms close by so banging started at 6 am!
It was three days of ‘ can you please turn the music down, please turn your walkie talkies down !’ Ended up being a stressed trip.
Despite ear plugs And ear protectors.
Oh and a local bar 200 yards away played so loud when we walked down the beach we could still hear it over 1 km away.
Never again, Yet, they seemed so surprised when after they said they they hoped to see us again, and we said ‘ not a chance ‘.
We just reconciled ourselves with they must just hire semi deaf people as staff policy. ! Their hotel awareness skills were a joke.

H isn’t an easy thing to live with at all .

Good luck
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ariel

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Sorry for the bad experience.

We should start a recommendation site for noise free Hotels 😉

Maybe then we will learn from each others experience. Maybe it will lead to some awareness.

I eventually moved in to one of the guys from the office. He basically saved me. I got back home today. Im not sure I ever missed my home so much.


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Now that is not a bad idea !!
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