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misterjones

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Well, they aren't that noisy.  I am greatly annoyed by the kind of noise one hears living in an apartment building (e.g., banging, voices, TV).  Noise does not bother me to the extent others have noted at this site, but it does annoy me (psychologically, I think, as it's more of a feeling that my space is being invaded).  I have earplugs and noise canceling headphones and have tried white noise.  Anyone have any suggestions that might serve to mask such noise?  I thought perhaps one of those tabletop "waterfalls" might help, but I'm afraid that might be just as annoying.  I am, as they say, all ears, so any suggestions are welcome . . .
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Stringalong

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I don't know if this would help -- some things about noisy neighbors that have sometimes helped me.  It doesn't work with every neighbor, but with a lot of them in my building, where I have lived for over ten years. It does not work for bullies, and does not work for some who are actively mentally ill.   What has worked for me are One, getting to know the neighbor.  If I know a person as a human being, someone I've at least met and introduced myself to, sometimes negotiations can take place.  After I meet the neighbor, the noise just says to me, "Oh, there's Mary, or Harry, having a good time; hanging up a picture with a hammer and nail, playing some music; etc."  If they are noisy too much of the time, negotiations can sometimes take place.  Maybe they would agree to be noisy during the time you are playing a CD or watching TV or a DVD, so those things can mask their noise.  You could modify you own time-frames to accommodate them, too.  For example, maybe you could both agree to do your thing between 7:00-9:00 p.m. or whatever times you can both accommodate.  Alternatively, you could move to a quieter building.  My apartment is very quiet.  I live on a courtyard.  The other side of the building faces a freeway.  I could never live on that side.  Noise where we live is a major problem for me, too.  That's why I feel so very fortunate to live where I do now.   I have negotiated with neighbors several times when I've lived in apartments.
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janeygirl

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Noisy neighbors: well when I got diagnosed and dealt with my Hyperacusis injury, I was dealing with a young couple who lived and partied and got increasingly drunk (and loud) only 5 feet away from our bedroom window, the man behind us played God Bless America louder as he got drunk outside, the neighbors next door's kids played outside joyfully screaming for 7 hours/day without supervision and the vacation rentals around us had all night parties and receptions, and yes, and live bands and all. This with beach traffic with boom boxes, concerts and all. I never thought I'd survive it and there were times I asked myself if it were me as others didn't seem to be bothered by it all. Well they were I found out but I think people closed themselves up and suffered. We live in a single family home so in our case since we had some bullies and well, chemically enhanced behavior around us, not much we could do in talking with the neighbors. But a water feature outside, we also put a large fence to block the noise (and smoke) from the young people, we had redone our windows to sound control Milgard double pane windows which helped but we added a third window which can be removed on the side of the house where the young kids were. Running some light instrumental music helped. And knowing that we would survive it. I prayed every night and had a lovely prayer posted on the wall which faced the young people. I forgave and I prayed for all these people who were so troubled. In time the man behind us died, the vacation rental was sold and now torn down, the young kids broke up and grew up and quit drinking, the kids next door grew up and are now graduating from college and in careers. We got through it. I learned a lot through this. I know what I can tolerate and what I can't and I'm so grateful I went through TRT as not only did the physical rehab portion of it help but the cognitive behavioral therapy. We still contend with some of the above but our county has gotten to be too pricey along with most areas for real estate I think we don't attract the lower income folks not to say that the folks buying and rebuilding houses now don't have problems by any means but it seems to be more of a permanent living area which builds relationships and community more than temporary so I think that helps. Anyway, just a note of empathy and to let you know that it can be survived, I love Stringalong's ideas!


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theworldonmute

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Hi,

You sound a lot like me. I get really angry about the sound next door to me make too. We lived in a house for 5 years and the parents used to let their small kids outside in the garden every morning at 6:30am and scream their heads off. It drove me to almost have a mental breakdown.

Now we live somewhere with equally thin walls and I can hear next door's TV every night. It feels intrusive like you say and makes me so angry I end up banging on the wall. I hate that this condition does this to me but it's not like I asked for it so I don't feel too bad and I have spoken with next door and politely asked them to turn it down so I don't really care what they think now as they're not co-operating.

There is a great white noise clip on YouTube it's called LARGE LOUD FAN WHITE NOISE. I usually just put that on and turn it right up. It's annoying having to do that so I drown out their TV but at least it doesn't make me angry.

Hope you find it useful

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kuhnstefanie

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Try to use Acu-Life Impact Noise Reducers Ear Plugs Sound Filter Ear Plugs..hope that could help.
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janeygirl

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I remember one time we were on vacation and the only motel room they had was right by the swimming pool. It was hot and we turned on the air conditioner, drowned out everything. We have another house being demolished this week again, we've got so many high tech folks coming onto the street, buying houses, demolishing them and rebuilding so I'm thinking oh no, not again.

So even without common walls, it happens. I'm glad you found something that worked. 

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