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Blue

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[TL/DR: How do I desensitize to neighbours voices, and retain sensitivity in other areas? Is that possible?]

I'm so glad to have found this forum. Maybe someone here can relate and share some ideas.

I have always been really good at hearing people's voices and discerning their words, whether song-lyrics, talk-radio, or in person. In my teens, adults would scold me for eavesdropping, when to me, their speech was plain as day, and easy to hear without focusing my mind, let alone putting my ear to a wall.

In general, my hearing is excellent and I easily pick out sounds and qualities of sounds, and "cycles" of sounds that others miss. It's been great for music, and I have an excellent "imagination" for sound, where I can sing harmonies, add instrumentation, and recall and vocalize sounds effortlessly. Again, great for music.

Unfortunately, my ability to hear voices has increased dramatically and I am constantly overhearing neighbours, which is extremely aggravating. It sometimes feels as though they are speaking right beside me, even though there are concrete walls and floors between us.

I have no idea what to do. I love my super-hearing, now that I've traired my mind to tolerate traffic, refrigerators, electrical wire hums, light bulbs humming, helicopters, saws, crickets, flies, people breathing, the sound of my own hair moving, etc - but this is ridiculous, and it's rapidly destroying my peace of mind.

I have no idea if this is important - all my life, I have been able to reproduce entire conversations / classes (lectures) / shows / scripts/ commercials nearly verbatim, including tone of voice.

How do I desensitize to neighbours voices, and retain sensitivity in other areas? Is that possible?
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Aplomado

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Hello,

That is really odd- it doesn't really sound like hyperacusis.  Have you had a hearing test done?

Maybe you can play some quiet background music to make it less noticeable?

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Blue

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Hi:

Yeah, I'm well aware of the oddity of it, and am hoping to get an audiologist referral next week. It's never really occurred to me to mention it much to doctors because I grew adopt at "handling" it on my own.

I find many sounds painful, and always have, but at a very early age (4 through 7 or so), I trained my mind to only "half listen" to the world around me, and mostly that has served me well. But when I'm stressed for long periods of time, my ears buzz and ring and pop and hurt, and I use visualization and mindfulness meditation to cope.

The ridiculous sensitivity to voices seems to be only increasing though, and as I said, it's become very aggravating, and now I'm here, asking.
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Aplomado

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Yes, an audiologist sounds like your best bet.
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Blue

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Sorry, I didn't even respond to your suggestion. Oversight. Yes, I have tried varying levels of external sound - music, movies, audiobooks - and only at very loud volumes do they help. I have had slightly more success with singing and humming loudly, though after a while that becomes its own irritation.

I didn't think an issue like this would be rare on this message board, but perhaps I was mistaken. It seemed like a good avenue to pursue while awaiting my audiologist referral.
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Paulbe

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Audiologist?  I think you need to see Marvel Comics about a movie deal.  Real live super-powers don't happen everyday.
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saab1216

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Rare? I think not.While in the long battle of my h/t, I also became very much in tune with just about every sound imaginable.I could hear a person breathing from behind me or conversation afar off from ones definition of a normal dustance. Fluorescent bulbs buzzing,leaves that the fall wind would drag across the ground,scraped within my ears.I could actually feel the texture of raspy voices or the highest pitch of lip smacking, saliva movement.Hundreds of sounds that my normal ears today no longer hear.My audiologist told me it was misophonia... I hated it.It caused me anxiety and depression. It was part of the whole pcture for me.Loudness sensitivity too.Very much.I know some who can attest to this anomoly.


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Blue

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As I said, I didn't expect an issue like this would be rare on this board. Thanks for sharing your experience, Paul H.

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Audiologist?  I think you need to see Marvel Comics about a movie deal.  Real live super-powers don't happen everyday.


Unsaid was that this was the last place I expected this problem to be made fun of. Perhaps you were attempting to bring some levity to this; however, I've suffered enough ostracizing and gaslighting over this to last me lifetimes. I'm seeking shared experiences, and respectful advice. Not here to be mocked or used as a tool to showcase someone else's cleverness.
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saab1216

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Blue...You're in a good place. Many have walked in your shoes or continue to. Your ability to articulate your situation may have projected a surreal image in the minds of  those who misunderstand sound sensitivity,to a much a higher degree.Here, you will never be put on display as an oddity with any degree of negative objectiveness.
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Blue

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Thanks, Paul H. I really needed that. In "MacGyver"-ing neural habits on my own, I completely bypassed opportunities for support from those able to relate.

I'm sure you're aware that people can be ruthless when they assume they cannot be heard, and defensive to the point of gaslighting when confronted with "playback" of conversations/comments they imagined private.

Thanks again.
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