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SalFaz

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Anyone fighting this battle have young children whose voices / activities you can't handle? How do you manage? Are you open to talking?

The only way I can be a mom now is to wear ear protection, but I know I'm not supposed to do this all day. So now what? Hide in my room without my son or wear ear plugs? Totally struggling both emotionally and physically. I have loudness hyperacusis that has been progressively getting worse as I keep pushing through life without ear plugs. Just started pink noise yesterday.
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SalFaz

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Anyone? Really struggling. I can only handle being around my 6 year old son with ear protection now - and sometimes that’s not even enough as I continue to have my LDLs drop daily :/. I have just started pink noise via my computer and am on 5 min a day. Ty
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You need to do what is necessary so that you can function in your daily life. If you need ear plugs to care for you son, then use them.  Your goal should always be to reduce the amount of time that you use the ear plugs. If you are using the ear plugs, and your ears are getting sound stimulus at your tolerance level do not worry about it. Work with your son for mom's quite time when you take your ear plugs out when you are around him. Your next step would to get into a TRT program. You also may try to find someone trained in cognitive behavior therapy that understands H. I understand how difficult your life is as I had a really hard time getting my loud adult son to change his behavior around me. I wish you the best. 
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Please try these, they don’t block of sounds completely but enough to be able to handle the noise from your son . I use them all the time for around 3 years now in the car or if I go out for food etc etc .

https://rover.ebay.com/rover/0/0/0?mpre=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.ebay.co.uk%2Fulk%2Fitm%2F202678705733

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Cutting foam earplugs in half is a solution many use.  When this is done there is no need to roll them down.  Once you cut them in half simply push them in and they work great.  Foam earplugs are designed to be comfortable.  They put very little pressure on the ear canal and are inexpensive.

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SalFaz  I so feel for you with kids and can't stand noises... I remember about 5 years ago christmas and our kids as in 30 years olds having brilliant time with us playing a board game and the noise - I suddenly shouted up 'this is like a mad house' and it went so quiet, could hear a pin drop, job done, sorted all quiet, peace...

Seriously now I'm 66 years old and they could come here with the 10 grand kids 'yes they're everywhere' and bang and clatter whatever they want and my wife would give in first and she's tough on hearing abilities. She would give in before me...

So how do we get you in the same position as me so you can stand all noises again... You done damage to hearing or something unusual happened to start H off in the first place.

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SalFaz

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Steve, so you’re doing better now?
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Yes... leaf blowers, fans, crisp packets, diesel engines - I use them to strengthen my sound tolerance and move closer 'when I wan't to' - never damaged my ears though as in explosion or rock concert, but H was 'BAD' for several years, so it offers hope to 'some' people - if that's the case with someones ears are damaged then that issue has to be fixed if and when it can be first.
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Hi SalFaz, I’ve just came across this website and I’m going through the exact same as you. I have a 3.5 year old and a 9 month old - I suffer from tinnitus however over the past 6 months hyperacusis has gotten so much worse and I’m struggling with any sort of noise.
Has anything helped you? Thanks
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SalFaz

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Hi there,

Gosh, I wish I could give you proper advice! After I relapsed badly in Feb 2020, I still tried to be around my son and his activities as much as possible without ear protection, but would always play low volume of white noise on my phone to help buffer his sounds. Sadly in the last 3 weeks my LDLs seem to have dropped from prob 72db to 64db, if not lower. At this point, I’m away from my son to give my ears some time to rehab. When I see him again soon, I’m planning to use as much ear protection as I need to be around him. I do like to do daily exposure to sound though, and go on walks without ear plugs, do some driving, try to shower, take work calls through Zoom etc.

I speak with a few other moms that have new H. Some are now wearing ear plugs all the time around their kids to avoid worsening. To be seen what the outcome will be.

I have thought about going all in on pink noise therapy but haven’t yet. I have also looked into the reverse hearing aids from Sound Sense and might do the free trial. https://sound-sense.net/about.html

There are some Facebook groups for H too if you feel
Like community would be helpful. Though don’t read all the stories - that’s just poison for the mind!

Wishing you luck! I know how challenging this can feel.
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SalFaz

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Victoria, do you know what initially caused your ear problems?
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VictoriaM

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Hi SalFaz, thanks for your message.

I’d never experienced anything like this before however on the evening that I had my first son I remember sitting in the hospital ward thinking that it was really noisy... when I got home I said to my husband did he hear the buzzing noise (turning the volume on the tv off). This was when I started to become aware that something had changed. I went a whole year persevering as I didn’t want people to think that I was mad. After a year of investigating I got fitted with a hearing aid that plays white noise to try and counteract the tinnitus. After situation not improving at all after the birth of my second son, I found a local tinnitus support group where they spoke about hyperacusis which was like a lightbulb moment as the realisation came that I was so sensitive to sound.

Sorry for the long story, so much I’ve missed out as don’t want to go on and on. I’ve do CBT, gratitude diary, yoga etc when I can do try and retrain my brain to look at the positives - I completely understand what you mean regarding the Facebook groups. For the moment I’ll stay away from these as I don’t want it to be a constant reminder.

This has really helped though and I’m definitely going to look into pink noise therapy and over ordered ear plugs and ear defenders to try that are due to arrive at the weekend. I can let you know how I get on.

Take care x
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SalFaz

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Victoria - sounds like your mental health strategies are good! I hope you continue to improve and please do keep me posted. Where you located? I'm in the US in California.
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VictoriaM

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SalFaz - I’m in Scotland, UK. I hope you’re able to see improvements soon and keep me updated as well if you try anything new - even if you think it hasn’t helped. I think it’s good to share experiences and try help as much as we can x
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Totally agree!
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